Thursday, June 30, 2011

Moms Are You Feeling Smothered?

Posted by Andria at 2:39 PM 0 comments

There are so many demands placed on mothers. Not only are there tons of social pressures, but also the cooking, the cleaning and the habit of placing others needs ahead of our own just to name a few. Not easy is it girls? But let's not get things twisted here, there are also many amazing and wonderful things about motherhood. That being said, sometimes we as moms are conditioned to feel guilty and ashamed when it all gets overwhelming and it does!

I mean, really, how many times did you have "one of those days" where if you heard "mommy" one more time, you where going to scream? How many times did you run into someone or speak to someone on the phone the very same day your kids were making you nuts and you acted like everything was just peachy? You even found yourself stating you're just sad you didn't have 6 more pray they don't see right through you! lol, Come on, we can't keep pretending it's all glitz and glamor! It's okay to admit that thing's aren't always perfect.

When the days get crazy, the phone's ringing, the baby's crying and wanting to be nursed for the 5th time in two hours, your older one's are fighting, laundry's fallen behind, some little hand is tugging at you, you're realizing you're going to be late to take Susie to her ballet class, someone's got a booboo, someone's nose needs to be wiped, someone's diaper needs to be changed, someone wants to be held, someone wants a sandwich AAAHHH! Mom's do you sometime feel smothered by it all?

Lets face it, when mama's not happy, NOBODY'S happy! Mom's, you need to have "me time". I know you've heard it before. Yes, it's easier said than done but, something needs to happen! It's so important for your emotional, mental and spiritual well being. Just the same way you plan out doctor's visits, map out the budget for the month or plan your meals a month in advance, get just as serious about scheduling your "me time". You need it and that's okay!

My tips are a mixture of things I do personally and as well as great advice passed on to me from great moms. One's gotta stick right?! Something that I've found to be true is, the way you start your day off will usually affect your mood for the rest of the day. Now this may not be doable for you moms who are up 5 times a night with your babies but, try getting up about an hour before everyone else does, make sure you hydrate, eat and do what you wish you could if you had the time! For some, it might be yoga, for others, it might be finally getting to sit down with some tea or coffee and continuing that book you never finished a year ago (like me haha). What ever it may be, create that time and space for YOU.

Tip #2 Which I feel should be #1 and I do personally is get active! Exercise is one of the best ways to relieve tension and hello, we should ALL be doing it anyway. I'm not saying go kill yourself in the gym and not be able to move the next day. Besides, that would be really counter productive. Maybe you can start off by asking hubs to hold down the fort for a half hour and pop in a good workout dvd. Or just go for a nice power walk around the block. Remember, something is better than nothing. You'll feel so good about yourself, be strengthened physically and your ego will sure get strengthened in a few weeks when you look in the mirror!

Tip #3 Say yes to babysitting offers! Please don't be one of those mom's who NEVER lets anyone watch your kids. Obviously I'm talking good, trustworthy people. If grandma has said on more than one occasion "call me anytime" and you haven't, you are giving up precious opportunities to have a date with hubby, a little retail therapy with your girls or that mani/pedi you so desperately long for! Now don't go taking a mile when you've been given an inch by calling people every other day and then leaving for hours on end, but when someone offers, you say "that would be great!" "Are you free on Saturday?" Don't feel bad about accepting help!!!

For now, I'll leave you with those three, but more than anything I want you to remember YOU. Feeling overwhelmed and smothered is not only common, but normal. YES, you are normal! No more feeling like a bad mother because you needed to hide from your kids for five minutes. No more guilt, no more shame and no more neglecting you! It's okay to need some space sometimes. Find time for yourselves because deprivation is never good for anyone and you'll see how things feel much easier to manage in the end. Make this a priority starting today!

Mamas, what are some things you do for yourselves? Don't hold in all the good secrets!

Thursday, June 16, 2011

Making Summer Sweeter

Posted by Andria at 3:37 PM 2 comments

Wondering what your kids can do while they're out of school. As parents we can sometimes get panicky at the thought of the those energetic kiddos being home ALL DAY LONG. And let's not forget the fear of having to constantly hear those dreaded words, "I'm bored" Don't let your kids summer vacation scare you. There are so many things you can do to ease their boredom that doesn't involve tons TV or video games. Being a mom who now homeschools my child has taught me to become very creative when it comes to giving Aizlynn things to not only keep her busy but, keep her creativity flowing. Although our family is big on visiting theme parks (we do live in Orlando)I'm constantly researching fun, new things we can do without breaking the bank. Here are some great ideas I've found to help make my child's summer a little sweeter! Give them a try with your kids!

* Have a "Water Fun" day!- Instead of the usual trips to the pool (which is fine too) spice it up by having a fun water balloon fight, buy some inexpensive water guns, bring out the old garden hose and sprinkler too. You can even have a sponge toss- take soaked sponges and throw them at a designated target!

* Bubble Art!- Take bubble mix, pour some into a cup and add a few drops of food coloring. Blow rainbow bubbles into the air, and try to catch them with a white sheet of paper! After the paper dries, use markers or crayons to finish your masterpiece!

* Play "Follow the Clues"- This can be done indoors or outdoors and it requires some preparation. You'll need a "treasure" (you can use a treat like a bag of candy for example), and post-it notes. Hide the treasure, then write a clue that leads right to it. Hide the clue, then write and hide another clue that leads to that one, and so on. Try to hide each clue so that a small piece of the paper shows and don't hide clues too close together. Use as many clues as you want, numbering them in order. Leave one clue unhidden to start the hunt! Make the clues age appropriate- you can draw pictures for preschoolers who can't yet read.

* Have a picnic in the park- When your child is a bit used to park trips, like mine is, having an old fashion picnic that involves a blanket on the grass and lemonade really helps to put a fun twist on a routine trip to the park.

* Have a pizza day- No this doesn't mean ordering pizza! Remember we're trying to keep the kids busy with activities! Have fun making your own pizza. You can use pre-made dough or one option we love is pita bread. Also try to remember it's all about fun so don't gripe about things getting a little messy. You can even invite some of your child's friends over and make it a pizza party!

* See what's free!- Many local libraries have free story time events that your kids can enjoy. Also check to see what your local fire station has to offer. Many Fire stations will have certain days where they allow the public to take tours. Your child will love getting to see and touch real fire fighting equipment and often times they'll get to sit in a fire truck!

* Make a what-to-do jar- This can be your backup system when your busy playing catch up around the house or having to answer 50 emails and just need time to focus! Get the kids to write fun activities that really don't require a whole lot of supervision on slips of paper and put them in the jar. For example, act out a play, color, play a board game, build something with legos or blocks, have music time, write a letter to someone special to them etc. When they get bored, get them to reach in the jar and pull out a slip!

I hope you find inspiration in some of these great ideas and hey, you might find yourself having more fun than your kids! What are some creative ways you keep your kids busy during the summer?


Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Bubble Science Kit Review and Giveaway! (Closed)

Posted by Andria at 1:13 PM 8 comments

Summer is here and that means it's time to get those kiddos outside for some fresh air and fun! What better way to get in some creative, outdoor playtime then with the fun Bubble Science Kit from HearthSong! It's also a nice way to get involved in your child's playtime instead of just sending them outside. Besides, what child doesn't love bubbles!?

Hearthsong was so generous to send me their Bubble Science Kit by EIN-O SCIENCE for review and my little girl could NOT wait to get her hands on it! It really is all-inclusive science kit that allows your child to explore ways to make bubbles and learn the many forms that bubbles can make. I LOVE that not only is it something my daughter can have fun with but, it's also educational! This Bubble Science Kit also includes 6 different experiments your kids can explore.

We had a ton of fun playing with it and my 6 year old definitely gives the Bubble Science kit a thumbs up. Some things to look out for are that the bubble solution is a concentrate that needs to be mixed with water. I do wish the instructions were a bit more specific on the exact water ratio because it did take us a few tries to get the bubble solution just right. Once you figure it out though, it's a super cute activity! 

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Tuesday, June 7, 2011

TTC Update: Here's to Good Cries, Rom-Coms & Trying Again!

Posted by Andria at 9:41 PM 3 comments
Most of you may know that we are officially back on the roller-coaster that is TTC (trying to conceive) wagon so, I thought I'd give a little update. Technically, last month marks our 2nd try since our loss and unfortunately it's a big, fat NO this time round. Seeing the negative test result made me move from disappointment to just pure anger. I was pissed. No two ways around it- PISSED!

All this time, I had never actually gone through an angry state but, there it was like a fire suddenly ignited. I cried but, they were the kind of tears you cry when you really wanna hit someone but can't. I poured out my thoughts to Jeff and it was as if I was realizing my feelings as they were coming out of my mouth. In a nutshell, I told him I was SO angry because "I wouldn't have to be going through the ups and downs of "trying" if we hadn't lost the baby in the first place!" On a side note, I was watching "Extreme Makeover Weight Loss Edition' and it really wasn't helping! I cried a river thanks to that show! Anyway, I found that once my rant (and the show) was over, I felt a little better. I guess I just needed to ride that wave for a bit and have myself a good cry.

The next couple weeks I'll make sure that I keep steady, focused and stress free. I plan on continuing my homemaking endeavours, get some crafty projects done just for the heck of it, finish up Aizlynn's last few weeks of homeschooling (yay), make sure I get in a good laugh here and there and by God, I WILL get these toes done! They're an atrocity right now. The main goal though is to be stress free. Trying for a baby can definitely take it's toll so preventing high stress situations is essential for me. Now that I think about it, I foresee Jeff and I having a date-night-in with a good "Rom-Com" in my immediate future ;) That would be nice...

In the end, what can I really do about the situation? Just hold on to God, family, hope and keep trying! I can't let it bring me down. So here's to a new month and a new cycle!